Sometimes you may feel that it is the end. You may feel exhausted, you might just want to scream or yell it all out. You might feel that you have lost the strength to fight with people, yourself or even your never- ending thoughts. People's judgement and criticisms have overpowered your belief in yourself. They take away your priceless hours making you believe that you are worthless and shallow. The overthinking, self- doubting and those past scenarios playing and playing, you don't know how to stop, where is the pause button. Trust me you are not alone in this phase of your life, there are many who are going through it or have passed it.
For now, close your eyes, breathe in and out as people say. Don't think about people, your left-over work or your assignments. Just let all of it drain out. You know what I do, I basically just switch off of the lights with no one around me as it gives me a sense of peace. Once you are calm, ask yourself "Who are you?"
It is not necessary that you will always get the love, sometimes there would be times where you would get million pounds of hate. That does not mean that you start doubting yourself. You are no less, I always say don't compete with others, compete with yourself. We all are going to be in bad spaces sometimes, there might be situations where you wouldn't be able to deal with it, confusions would take over your mind and there would be very little clue left for it. It's human tendency to complicate things, become weak and break down. We’ll relapse and have moments when we don’t know what to do and where to go. But hey, you are strong, you are gonna get over it, Trust me you are permanent, but situations aren't. One more important thing, social media shows you all the wonderful and happy lives of people, it may fool you into believing that good things only happen to them and all you believe is that you have struggles, pain and a bad life. It's human nature to be extraordinarily judgemental and close-minded to anyone different from them. That part of human is always comparing, contrasting and commenting. You do it, I do it and so does everyone.
Social media is not the whole world. There is a world outside, in which people have real problems. Not everyone goes around telling people. All they want is assurance, doesn't everyone want assurance. There are people who have problem with their skin colour, accent, family, motives, weight, habits and what not. You’ll be too opinionated, less tenuous, too open, less mysterious, too hard to handle and less easy to please. But, you can never avoid it, repress it or keep grudging over it.
According to me the only solution is to let go all of it, not letting your's or other's judgement affect you or your power. All are equally deserving, worthy and capable. Love the little flaws of your's. No one expect you can decide what let's you decide what can affect you. People are always gonna judge, no matter what you do or how you do it. The every minute you are speaking to someone, they might be judging you for how you speak or how you represent yourself. Who can occupy your patience when impatience roars through you? Why not try to be a little less harsh on other people and yourself and their way of living?
Your life is yours to live, no matter how you choose to live it. Do whatever your heart approves of, then what others think should not be your problem. Your instincts will never lie. In this busy world, take out time for yourself, whether be it 5 mins, but it take it out. Ask yourself "Am I happy?". No, then you need to do something which makes you happy. Stand proudly on what you believe is right. Your family and dear ones will never be judgmental of you in spite of your flaws or mistakes. There are people who will keep believing in you when you cry over the ones finding faults in you always.
To be honest, winning battles with the world is a complete waste of time. Learn to conquer yourself and your own thoughts. Make peace with the darkness which resides within, that's the only time you are going to be at peace and in touch with yourself. Among all the chaos within the world, you shall remain calm. More importantly, love yourself and whole world would seem easy, quite enough. You shall rise, you will be better and you will be the new confident you. You shall be victorious. Victory on what? Victory over low self-esteem, negativity, hatred and judgement.
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