It is about time to terminate the stigma that surrounds mental health. The phrase has already been said multiple times "It's okay to seek medical help".
Mental Health is as important as physical health. In fact mental health affects an individual's physical health. Being a Psychology student, I can recall that we were taught that mental health includes emotional, psychological and social well-being and all these aspects work together work on how we feel,thinks and act out of things.
But sadly, it is considered as an abnormality or instability of a person's mind. Many who go through this tough phase are told to keep their mouth sealed as it considered shameful or they just never open about it! They keep their feelings sealed.
All those feelings,
sealed deep down.
Accepting it as a
part of our soma.
Becomes the new
normalcy of are entity!
Smiling and smiling
yet thinking
What's wrong with me?
Across the globe with abuse of all kinds, I really ponder on how some people can be just so insensitive. Putting all the blame of one person for feeling that way. Totally wrong, where is the moral and values there. Guilt refers to feelings of deserving blame especially for imagined offenses or form a sense of inadequacy.
You really wanna know what leads to guilt tripping is minding your business when you should not while someone is going through their tough time, ignoring all the symptoms, the abuse and lack of affection.
Phrases that show guilt tripping:
- Suck it up, you're bringing everyone down.
- You're just being negative- People are starving and homeless. Just be thankful.
- We've made plans to do this - it's selfish of you to take time to cope up with your mental illness.
- Nothing I do makes you happy. You're ungrateful.
- You're good for nothing.
- If you love me you'll pull yourself together and come to the event.
- You're overreacting!
Mental illnesses is not an excuse made by the person. It is real.
As being human beings we tend to hurt a lot of people unknowingly but we need to watch and think on our word choices. Some people being aware that it will hurt others are basically trash for me.
The problem with mental health is that no one really knows how you feel inside. You could look like the happiest person in the world but be breaking more everyday, each inch inside the body and the mind. Just because you can't see someone suffer does not mean that they aren't. Human life can be very complicated , people often get stuck in the trap of focusing more on what other people want or expect as to be rather than who we are. So when it comes to the social taboo, people often try to avoid the reality of their own issues from those who are around us.
When it comes to taboo, even men face a lot problems. They are taught that "Real Man" never experience any emotion beside anger and happiness as a risk of looking weak. All these things make men to not only ask for help but reside and gulp down all the face of pain and adversity that can be disorienting.
Men suffer from mental illness, they cry, have emotions. It's not unmanly to struggle, and we need to encourage men to speak out, not suffer in silence.
Hence, it is very important for each and everyone to make sure the choices of words you choose. It can affect anyone and you won't even know. Rather than saying you're not good for anything say that there is no statement known as not good for nothing. Everybody is a genius. But if you a judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.
Be aware that there are some people who are manipulators and can cause him or her to feel that they are greatest villain present on this earth. If you know someone who seems to be getting continuously "hurt" by someone or guilt tripping rather than blaming them, be with them. Comfort them, don't leave them alone until you are confident that they are fine and assure them you are with them.
Guilt trips are a form of psychological manipulation and covert control used to pressurize into doing something they don't want to do. The target might now feel guilty but also be angry or even resentful. They might tend to disconnect from the world.
Ways to cope up from Guilt tripping:
Be aware that there are some people who are manipulators and can cause him or her to feel that they are greatest villain present on this earth.
Some strategies given by Psychology today is,
- Tell the person that you do understand how important it is for them that you do the they're trying to guilt you into doing.
- Explain that their using a guilt trip to make you conform to their wishes makes you feel resentful, even if you fo end up complying.
- Tell them you're concerned that accumulating these kinds of resentments can make you feel more distant from them and that is not something you or they wish.
- Ask them to instead express their wishes directly, to own the request themselves instead of trying to activate your conscience, and to respect your decisions when you make them (e.g., “I would love it if you had another bowl of soup. No? No problem, here’s the brisket,” or, “It would mean a lot to me if you came to your niece’s confirmation but I’ll understand if your schedule doesn’t permit it.”).
- Explain that you will often do what they ask if they ask more directly. Admit that you might not always conform to their wishes but point out the payoff—that when you do choose to respond positively, you would do so authentically and wholeheartedly, that you would feel good about doing so, and that you would even get more out of it.
- Be prepared to have reminder discussions and to call them on future guilt trips when they happen (and they will). Remember, it will take time for them to change such an engrained communication habit.
- Be kind and patient throughout this process. Doing so will motivate them to make more of an effort to change than if you come at them with anger and resentment, legitimate though your feelings may be.
At the end I just want to say please take Mental Health Seriously. To the people who are going through it now, your Mental health is more important than your career, money, other people's opinions or that even you said you would attend. If taking care of yourself means letting someone down, then let someone down. How your life feels is more important than how it looks!
To those people who know their close one or anybody going through it, make sure you don't blame them. Assure them that you are here, give them all the love and if they need help please rather than saying what will people say, SAY YOU MATTER!
MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES ARE NOT SHAMEFUL!
This is how depression looks like! There are many ways one portrays themselves but this is one way.
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